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Why is it so hard to be consistent?

I am responsible for my life and my happiness. Only me.

“Why is being consistent such a perpetual struggle? And why, oh why, do we gravitate towards distraction like bees to honey?

We’re our own worst enemy. Are we actually undermining the potential triumph that consistency could unveil?

When I was in my early 30s I left a very comfortable job to start a new business project.

My belief in this project was so strong, that I resigned from a high-paying role at a prestigious company, safe income, no stress, nice people.

Why? Essentially I always wanted to build something of my own. I didn’t want to be stuck in a role that was limited. In a job that didn’t allow me to work autonomously. It was exhausting – my internal struggle.

Everyone around me kept saying I should stay on in the job, that I make a big mistake leaving.

But my call for freedom, creativity, creating and building something was so much stronger than all the voices around me.

Maybe it was naive at the time because at that age you feel like these kinds of opportunities come around all the time. Spoiler alert: They don’t.

So there were certainly times when a tiny little feeling of regret set in. But I believe we do the best we can at the point we are at in our lives.

It also shows the difference to how things have changed over time.

Now fast forward to 45, I can barely motivate myself to consistently work on my business project.

Yeah, I’m juggling solo parenting, but deep down, I know there’s a touch of self-sabotage in the mix. My belief in success just doesn’t ring as loudly as it did back in the day.

So, what do I do? I procrastinate. Distract myself.

Scrolling, reading, watching, soaking in other people’s stories.

Anything but creating my own.

When I was in my early 30s I left a very comfortable job to start a new business project.

My belief in this project was so strong, that I resigned from a high-paying role at a prestigious company, safe income, no stress, nice people.

Why? Essentially I always wanted to build something of my own. I didn’t want to be stuck in a role that was limited. In a job that didn’t allow me to work autonomously. It was exhausting – my internal struggle.

Everyone around me kept saying I should stay on in the job, that I make a big mistake leaving.

But my call for freedom, creativity, creating and building something was so much stronger than all the voices around me.

Maybe it was naive at the time because at that age you feel like these kinds of opportunities come around all the time. Spoiler alert: They don’t.

So there were certainly times when a tiny little feeling of regret set in. But I believe we do the best we can at the point we are at in our lives.

It also shows the difference to how things have changed over time.

Now fast forward to 45, I can barely motivate myself to consistently work on my business project.

Yeah, I’m juggling solo parenting, but deep down, I know there’s a touch of self-sabotage in the mix. My belief in success just doesn’t ring as loudly as it did back in the day.

So, what do I do? I procrastinate. Distract myself.

Scrolling, reading, watching, soaking in other people’s stories.

Anything but creating my own.

So I wonder.. is it self- belief, or lack thereof. Or is the mountain of learning new things simply overwhelming?

Rewind to my 30s – I conquered web development, danced with Dreamweaver (oh yeah!), mastered CSS, learned about hosting companies, learnt how to hire and work with bloggers and writers, crafted editorial plans, and mastered SEO for a growing website. I even dabbled in the wild world of affiliate advertising.

But here’s the strange thing – back then, no self-sabotage, no holding back, no detours. So, what’s holding me back now?

Am I underestimating the difference it makes being a mum 24/7? Have I tried so many things that it is hard to believe? Is it simply too much newness for me to grasp so quickly?

The answer is: I don’t know. Maybe a little bit of everything.

What I do know though is, that I can push through that resistance. And so can you.

The magic happens when you come out the other side.

 
 

 

 

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